This is the big question all twin mom’s to be want the answer to. The first few weeks with singletons are hard but with two newborns?
I will not lie to you, I was very hysterical about the first 4 weeks. The first week we brought them home they took turn waking through the night, the entire night.
I formula fed because I was having trouble with supply and cannot recall how many bottles I made that I don’t recall making. Luckily mama’s, I got it under control and here’s how.
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An amazing support team will take you far with surviving the first 6 weeks with twins.
Don’t turn down any help that is offered because your house is a mess or you’re tired, because that’s when you need them the most!
Take advantage of their visit and take a shower, do some laundry, take a well-deserved nap, anything that new mama needs.
Don’t be afraid to ask your support team if they don’t mind getting laundry done, or a few dishes, or allowing you to take a nap.
Chances are they are eager to see your little ones and don’t mind lending a helping hand.
I didn’t want to ask for help because I felt like they were my responsibility and I was left DRAINED, mentally, emotionally and physically.
Your partner is included in your support team. Make sure you two work out a plan that works best for both of you.
Rather that’s rotating nightly wake-ups, or in shifts (every few hours or so).
My partner and I have settled into a routine that consists of him getting up with our littles at night so I can rest once he gets off of work, and me tending to the little ones in the mornings so that he also gets a chance to rest.
It’s important that you talk about it because as a mama, it’s easy to begin to feel like your working alone, and trust me it is work.
My favorite part of this post. There are many, many, ways to prepare for each day with your littles.
All over the house! Every room you go in with your babies should have a diaper station.
It’s not that you’re too lazy to use the changing table every time, it’s that you are recovering from either surgery or pushing out two human beings, it’s important to rest as much as possible.
If you have space (and the money) there are plenty of foldable changing tables, that you can leave up in several rooms of your house.
If you don’t have space (or money) like yours truly haha, I recommend diaper caddies.
Set a caddy in each room, you can even add a portable changing pad to your caddies.
For those of you that might be lost, I’m including all links below of exactly what I’m talking about.
Keep diapers, wipes, bibs, burp cloths, extra pacifiers, A&D or whatever diaper ointment you use, nose suckers, and any other baby items that you could constantly reach for throughout the course of the day.
This is also perfect for guests that are helping, there’s no need to constantly wake you from your nap or interrupt your cleaning to ask you where something is, and it minimizes the traffic in your nursery.
Night stations are similar to diaper stations but not quite the same and differs by the type of feeding you will be doing.
A night station can be kept in your bedroom within easy reach. This station should not only include diapers, wipes, etc., but also extra swaddles, and everything you need for feeding.
For my formula mamas:
First, let me say fed is best. Please don’t feel discouraged or down on yourself for not breastfeeding, things happen, and at the end of the day a fed baby is a happy baby.
On that note, keep bottles filled with water in your night caddy and either the can of formula or capsules of formula.
I recommend already having your formula portioned out so that all you have to do is add and shake which equals less crying, and less awake time.
Using a twin z boppy pillow is a huge time and stress saver. Prop your babies in their pillow to bottle feed both babies at once.
For my breastfeeding mamas:
Keep your boppy if you use one near your bed.
Nipple cream, nipple shields, a hand pump, and anything else that you need for a comfortable breastfeeding session should be in your night station.
Yes, it is needed. If you are not a first-time mom then I don’t need to explain why this is needed, but if you are, understand that your body has gone through ALOT.
Rather you’ve had a C-section, or vaginal birth, your body has to heal.
Your postpartum station should include pads, large pads. I mean really large pads that fits almost like a diaper. Where do you find these?
Your hospital of course, your hospital will provide you with all kinds of goods, be sure to stock up on as much as they have to offer as possible, you pay for it in your hospital bill either way.
The heavy bleeding should subside by the end of the first week. Then you should fill your station with regular sized heavy pads.
Ice pads, again from your hospital. You can use your own as well but the ice pads in the hospital can be stored anywhere and by snapping it in two it’s cold in seconds.
Your hospital should prescribe pain relievers for your recovery. Keep them in your postpartum station as well. A heating pad as well will help with your discomfort. My epidural pain lasted almost 3 months. Yikes!
Keep your twins on a schedule the moment your nurses start one and keep it consistent. Babies thrive on schedules, that’s how they know what to do and want and when to do it.
Newborn babies off schedule can become cranky, overtired, underfed, and unpredictable.
My twins came off schedule and when one would go to sleep the other would wake up, leaving no rest for mama.
If you’re reading this because your twins are already off schedule you can view my post on how to get your twins on the same schedule.
If you want to regain time and find time to clean your house, and me time, then you should view how to manage housework and twins and check out my time management mini-course, it’s life-changing.
Sleep when they Sleep
Yes, Yes, and Yes. Again, mama, you are in recovery, for the first 6 weeks, the laundry and dishes can wait. Use your support team or when your babies are awake sit them in their swing and bouncy and take care of it.
But the ONLY time you can sleep without someone there to watch them is when they are sleeping so take advantage of it.
I tried to be wonder woman and only sleep at night and so many things went wrong. First, by the end of the day, I was completely exhausted.
Second, just because you’re ready for bed don’t mean they will be. Third, they wake through the night so your sleep will be broken and leave you even more tired.
And last, it took me longer to recover because I wasn’t resting as I should have. So get your naps in, you will thank yourself for it.
It’s your turn mamas,
What are some other ways you are preparing to Survive your first 6 weeks with your twins? What are some things you would do differently?